clothes in the workplace: it's hard out here for a female

I have a new, older co-worker. She's about my mom's age and a lovely person, so I feel protective of her, in some reverse way. She's never worked in an environment like ours before, so I find myself giving her a fair amount of advice about how to handle various issues. She's very passionate about what she does and a nice person.

But GOOD LORD she dressea inappropriately for work. Almost borderline Suri from 30 Rock inappropriate for work. It's hard for me suss out if her age makes it seem more or less appropriate. She clearly goes to the gym and is proud of her body, which everyone deserves to be. But there is something about it that makes me feel bad, because it gives people something to talk about and snicker behind her back about, and no one deserves that.

I fully support someone's right to wear whatever clothes they choose, and I'm all for trying to be non-judgmental of someone regardless of what they're wearing. But the reality of the situation is that what we wear results in judgments about our abilities, our sexuality, and our intelligence, especially for women. It DOES NOT mean that what we wear is an invitation to treat us differently or to ignore non-consent. But you want to have some judgmental, mean thoughts? Keep 'em to yourself!

That being said.

By sharing too much of your body at work, you're putting yourself at a disadvantage to share your great ideas and to show off your mind. It's a touch exchange and it's hard to go back when you've been elected the one who wears revealing clothes.

What do you think? What's the limit at work for you? Do you just skip this whole step and work from home/wear men's suits so no one can question it?

Much love,
The Sheriff