it's too comfortable in here...maybe

The arch that the average relationship follows is well-known: two people meet, they awkwardly talk, perhaps drunkenly fuck, exchange numbers, hang out to get more sex, accidentally realize that they're both great people, hang out some more, never want to be apart because the other person is amazing and sexy and perfect, fuck all the time, gradually grow super comfortable and start burping and farting and sneezing in front of each other, romance is lost forever.

Or does it?

I'm grappling with this one a bit myself: is it possible to be too comfortable with each other in a romantic relationship? Marvel seems to think no, that all level of bodily functions are cool to talk about or even perform in front of each other. The Sheriff, until Marvel, could barely own up to farts in front of past partners and would blame things on fumes or passing dogs.

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On the YES, you can get too comfortable side: some level of secrecy and mystery must be maintained (at least until babies, at which point it appears that all manner of decency and sleep and regular showering ceases for a few weeks/months) to keep the romance alive. Poop talk is rarely an aphrodisiac (unless that's your thang, in which case, do it up).

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On the NO side, let's keep it real side: your partner is a human, and being human means sometimes that you fart. The closeness that comes with that level of trust, in believing that your partner will still find you sexy even if they know what your snot looks like or how ugly your face gets when you're about to cry, is worth the slight decrease is sex appeal. Besides, trust can be very sexy (think S&M and disclosure of fantasies).

I still maintain though that a fart in the middle of a sexy conversation is a mood ruiner, and that sometimes, people need to know to maintain their rectal integrity and hold it in for the illusion. But, as I found when I recently had an, erhm, compromise in my rectal integrity in the middle of sex, sometimes the ridiculousness and laughter that it encourages makes it worth the momentary pause in the performance.

Where do you stand on this serious issue?

Much love,
The Sheriff